Typically a bachelor party, also commonly known as a stag do is a male-only affair. Not because men wouldn’t value the company of their allegedly fairer sex (after all the groom is being married to a lady) but because it’s traditionally meant to be celebrated by the groom and his male friends shortly before he enters marriage.
However, recent analysis shows that there is an increase in the number of women attending a stag do weekends. This is attributed to the rising number of men and women having close friends of the opposite sex. Such stags are nicknamed sten do, or hag do.
Anecdotal evidence also suggests that there are a significant number of incidences where stags and hen parties have been combined in recent years. Some say that it’s more fun throwing an exciting stag do holiday in Valencia, Prague, Madrid, or Hamburg with a few female friends to maintain a positive vibe.
But is it allowed to combine hen parties and stags? Can women be part of a stag do weekend? Well, there is no rule of thumb as to who can and cannot be allowed to attend a stag night. Mostly it is up to the groom to decide, and it also depends on the group dynamics. However, changing the traditions does not work for everyone. Some men feel uncomfortable having female friends around during stags. Same way it would feel if men were to show up for a hen’s party.
Maybe the tradition that stags are just men-only affairs and hens are ladies-only affairs is just a very old-fashioned idea that could use few changes or perhaps at times it’s better to separate the ladies and the gents. Either way, it boils down to what you are comfortable with or the dynamics of your group.
But some of the questions you should ask yourself are, will my bride be comfortable with me spending my special event with females? Would I be ok if my bride suggests having male friends at her hen’s party? Would it feel different than her spending the night with her female friends?
What if my best man is female?
Some men have very close female best friends that they either grew up with or met ages ago. Unfortunately, it gets a bit confusing when the guy is ready for marriage. This brings the question: can a lady be his best man? And if yes can she attend the stag do?
A survey conducted on recently married couples shows that 6% of the men interviewed preferred having their sister as the best woman at their wedding and this number seems to increase every year. Therefore it’s not odd to have the best woman for your wedding. And yes if you want her to be present at your stag, then, by all means, you can have her around.
Jealousy can play a huge role when it comes to accommodating your female friends in your stag do, but your bride is bound to feel less threatened if you endorse her as your best woman. Besides, if your bride knows you well enough and also knows that you are the best of friends with a lady, then she won’t be surprised to hear that she attended your stag do holiday. In fact, she just might feel calmer because of it.